The new bachelorette

I found this wonderful pic on FaceBook the other day

Monday morning February 25 2013

Well I guess Priscilla has me wrapped around her little paw. When I woke up the first time this morning at 4 AM she got me to open up a can of cat food for her. So I put up the coffee for myself then too.

When I woke up for real at 7:30 I poured myself a cup of coffee and she wheedled another can of cat food from me.

Then I drank my cup of coffee sitting on the edge of my bed.

And when I got up to come in here to the computer, she had aced my routine so much, she was already in position, sitting in front of the monitor. Blocking my view of monitor so all I can see is Priscilla.

The new era has brought out the genius in my cat.

Since Jim doesn’t read, so his cat can’t sit on his book while he is trying to read it.

And doesn’t have a computer, so she can’t sit on his key board or block his view of the screen, I said “you don’t have this problem.”

I forgot how inventive cats are.

He said “she sits on my checkbook when I am trying to write out my bills plus she eats the stamps.”

I was in the world of dogs for so long I am totally enjoying being back in the world of cats.

And it’s nice for me that my best friend Jim, who had dogs his whole life, is in the era of having cats now.

That we both have cats at the same time.

That we are having the same experience at the same time.

Now Priscilla is shlofen in front of the monitor. She even has her paw covering up her eyes so she can sleep comfortably and bright light of morning does not reach her.

It sure is a sweet sight your kitty sleeping in front of your monitor.

I am enjoying the view that every time I look up instead of seeing the monitor I see Priscilla, which I guess is the whole idea. Why else did she plop herself down in front of my monitor.

And her daughter Cupcake is curled up on scanner next to the computer.

Which is a totally sweet sight too.

I sure am enjoying having cats this time around.

Yesterday was the day of the freezing wind. It blew all day and as Frank said “each time you think it is dying down it just comes back stronger.”

I actually woke up yesterday morning convinced I was going to go swimming that day and just to the supermarket for milk for my frosted flakes in the morning.

But then I thought “it would be nice to have a new pair of shoes.” There were such pretty sandals on the bench at swimming pool and when the girl got out of the shower I said “where did you get them?” She said “Payless. Sometimes they have really nice shoes.”

Actually I think that is what got me out of bed yesterday morning. I thought “I will call Payless and see if they have those shoes so I can get them.”

And then I thought it would be nice to have small lightweight purse that I could stick in my swim bag.

The new pocketbook I had bought myself several months back is beautiful and fancy but for some reason weighs a ton.

I thought “Maybe JC Penney will have a little cotton pocketbook which will fit my wallet.”

I had bought a small pretty one on internet but forgot about size. When it arrived it was prettier than I hoped but too small for my wallet.

So all it does is sit on my door knob. A pocketbook only big enuf for your cigarettes never gets taken off your doorknob.

So I thought “maybe Jim can take me to JC Penney for new purse and then to Payless for the pretty sandals.”

And then I thought “O he will hate me when I tell him.”

But between waking up at 8 am and 11 am when the stores open on Sunday is a lot of time.

So even tho I was impatient to do it right now.  I had to fill up the time.

First I went to Payless on the computer. And by a miracle I was able to recognize the girl’s shoes.

And when I called at 11 am and told the girl the name of the shoes she said “yes we have them and we have them in your size.”

Bingo!!!

And then because Jim said he would not come to get me till 11:30 I thought “why don’t I go back to the website and see if they have pocketbooks, that way he won’t have to take me to JC Penny too.”

They seemed to only have about 6 or 7 pocketbooks but I found one which looked cute and they said it is yellow too. And I have been wanting a yellow pocketbook for years. And it is just what you want for spring. And I read the customer reviews and the girl raved about it, so I said “good I’ll get that too.”

Jim dropped me off in front of Fry’s supermarket. You never really get one item no matter what you plan, but I did tiny shopping. It took longer because I had never been in that Fry’s and didn’t know where to find things. But I liked that supermarket. It felt so friendly being in there.

And then he took me over to Payless.  (In the same shopping center.)

Naturally he was concerned about waiting forever in the truck for me. “No it will be fast” I said. “I called her she has my shoes ready.”

I realize now it couldn’t have been fast tho, cause I like to schmooze and consult with the sales girls.

And the two young sales girls there were the two sweetest girls you would ever find anywhere.

First I had her take me to the shoes. And we found them.

So then I went to purses which was right by check out counter.

I was surprised the selection was only 10 purses. I chose one small cotton one which fitted my wallet and then asked her which is her favorite. And it is lightweight too and I like it.  

So I bought it too.

And got back in the truck with Jim with all my purchases. I was one happy gal.

“It's my valentines present” I explained to Jim.

Who snorted.

“You have me drive all over town for 6 months so you can buy yourself 72 birthday presents and now you have to have valentines presents too!”

The wind was so cold tho, that my Higher Self said “Let the boy have a day off. Just have him drive you home. You can swim tomorrow.”

He was glad to have the day off. He said he will spend it under the covers with his cat.

But his club is different from mine. It has jacuzzi and steam room and sauna. Jim would never swim in this ice cold wind, but he loves jacuzzi, steam, and sauna.

And seeing all his friends there. There are lots of girls he is friends with there too. He loves kidding around with them.

I had no idea of the bachelor bachelorette life because I had been married for 40 years. But now that I am a bachelorette myself, I understand about my friends' lives who are single. Because now I am the same as them.

I realize for Jim and Alice who both go to Racquet Club, it’s not just about the swimming. It is their social life. It is where they see their friends.

And you have to have that when you are single. I have been starved for social life for the whole past year.

I keep hoping someone will call me on the phone, but no one ever does.

But I realize for both Jim and Alice whose marriages ended 20 years ago and who have had so much experience being bachelor and bachelorette they don’t experience any of my isolation. They go to their club every single day where they have so many friends.

Jim told me Alice has a best friend there Debbie that she is always fighting with.

So not only do they have so many friends there but Alice even has a best friend there too.

Which reminds me I did have a dream last night where I was starting to have a boyfriend.

It was just the start of it. I noticed I was interested in him and hoped he was interested in me too.

Just the teeniest bud popping up.

I never know what dreams mean. A love interest in a dream can mean anything.

But it does occur to me even tho I just rejoined my Y for a whole year and I am so happy there.

Racquet Club is like a 24/7 pool party. I don’t know if I’m ready for that yet. It's too much the extreme from the absolute simplicity of my life now.

But I think I will keep it in the back of my mind. It is a place where you can meet people while you sit in the jacuzzi and have as much conviviality as you want.

And I already have friends there and am comfortable there from when I was a member.

I’m starting to notice I don’t have to act on my ideas for them to brighten my life. I discovered that during this past two weeks when I was hoping my boyfriend from when I was 14 years old would call me back.

I realized it didn’t matter whether Mitch really did call me back or not, but when I went in for that long evening and night of being alone with my thoughts and took my telephone in there with me, it made it more fun for me that I was able to hope Mitch would call me back. That the idea of fun was in my mind.

And twice he actually did which was such a pleasant surprise.

So maybe I will use the idea of rejoining Racquet Club just as an idea to pep up my life.

I can think I will meet girls in their jacuzzi which are fun to talk to. And it’s possible there is a cute boy my age that I am attracted to too.

I was so deeply in love with Bill that I never looked at other men that way.

I am still just as deeply in love with Bill, but he has been gone from Tucson for two years. And even tho I am with him in spirit 24/7, our love and closeness just deepens and goes on all the time.

Still I have to figure out how to have a life in the world where I am a bachelorette again. I want more friendship, and perhaps I am up for a tiny bud of love interest too.

We will see.

Perhaps my new life begins today.

The day after the huge wind blew all day and all night. But brought in that enchanted violet light at sunset yesterday.

I love you

Annie